Remembering the Last Mother's Day with Your Mom

Remembering the Last Mother's Day with Your Mom

As Mother's Day approaches, it's natural to reflect on the last Mother's Day you shared with your mom. The memories may bring emotions—from joy and love to sadness and longing. It's OK to feel all these emotions and to honor the special bond you shared with your mom. It's OK to spend Mother's Day alone in deep reflection, or if you're open to it -- celebrating with aunts and others who are celebrating their mothers and mother figures.

Remember that your feelings and desires are valid; only you can decide what's best for you on Mother's Day. If the commercialized aspects of Mother's Day are too much for you, take a step back. Mother's Day may be a good day to practice your planned social media detox.

Remember to tend to what your heart feels and make room for whatever else you can unapologetically endure on your terms.

Having said that here are some ways to cherish and remember the last Mother's Day with your mom:

1. Create a Memory Book: Gather photos, letters, and mementos from the last Mother's Day celebration and create a memory book. Flip through the pages and relive the special moments you shared with your mom.

2. Write a Letter to Your Mom: Write a heartfelt letter to your mom, expressing your love, gratitude, and memories from the last Mother's Day. Pour out your emotions on paper and feel her presence as you write.

3. Light a Candle in Her Honor: On Mother's Day, light a candle in memory of your mom. Let the flame symbolize your eternal love for her and the light she brought into your life.

4. Visit a Special Place: Visit a place that was special to you and your mom on the last Mother's Day. Whether it's a park, a cafe, or a garden, take a moment to reflect on the time you spent together. Something I enjoy doing is going to one of the last places I enjoy having lunch with my mom, sitting in the same booth, ordering the same meal, and laughing at the funny conversations we share, knowing her spirit is swirling around me.

5. Cook Her Favorite Meal: Honor your mom's memory by cooking her favorite meal on Mother's Day. Please share it with family or friends and reminisce about the moments you shared around the dinner table.

6. Plant a Memorial Garden: Create a memorial garden in your backyard or balcony to remember your mom. Plant her favorite flowers or plants and watch them bloom as a tribute to her life.

7. Donate in Her Name: Donate to a cause or charity close to your mom's heart, like The Heart of Miss Bee, Inc. Honor her legacy by giving back and continuing her spirit of kindness and generosity.

Mother's Day can be a difficult time for women who have lost their moms. The day may feel empty and void of the love and warmth that their mom brought into their lives. Here are seven ways to survive Mother's Day without your mom, and honor her memory below. As you read, jot down what feels good and what you can commit to doing.

1. Acknowledge Your Emotions: It's OK to feel sad, lonely, and angry on Mother's Day. Allow yourself to acknowledge and express your emotions without judgment.

2. Create New Traditions: Start a new tradition on Mother's Day that honors your mom's memory. Whether it's a ritual, a walk in nature, or a particular activity, make it a way to remember and celebrate her life.

3. Reach Out for Support: For comfort and understanding, lean on family, friends, or a support group. Share your feelings and memories of your mom with those who care about you.

4. Write a Journal: Write in a journal on Mother's Day to express your thoughts, memories, and emotions. Writing can be a therapeutic way to process your grief and keep your mom's memory alive.

5. Take Care of Yourself: On Mother's Day, practice self-care by doing activities that bring comfort and peace. Whether you meditate, take a bath, or go for a walk, prioritize your well-being.

6. Celebrate Her Legacy: Honor your mom's legacy by doing something she loved or valued. Whether volunteering, reading her favorite book, or listening to her favorite music, keep her spirit alive.

7. Remember You Are Not Alone: Remember that you are not alone in your grief. Many others are also navigating Mother's Day without their moms. Reach out to connect with others who understand your feelings.

As you navigate Mother's Day without your mom, remember that her love and presence will always be with you. Cherish the memories, honor her legacy, and care for yourself during this emotional time.

You are not alone in your grief, and there is strength in remembering and celebrating the special bond you shared with your mom.

I am sending you love and comfort on this Mother's Day.