That Time I Used a "Medium" to Connect with My Mom on the Other Side
Grief will have you out here trying anything—I mean, anything—to feel connected to your person again. I should know. I did it. I scheduled an appointment with a medium.
Now, before you raise an eyebrow, hear me out. I wasn’t necessarily a believer or a skeptic—I was just a daughter in deep pain, searching for any kind of confirmation that my mother was okay, that she had arrived in the next realm safely, and that she wasn’t struggling to adjust to her new spiritual assignment. More importantly, I needed to know that she hadn’t forgotten me, because I sure as hell could never forget her.
When a trusted source recommended a reputable medium, I figured, why not? After all, I already burn sage and palo santo, cleanse my space, and believe in spiritual connections. So, this wasn’t too far outside of my belief system.
The Call That Had Me Questioning Everything
The day of the virtual session, my nerves were on 10. The medium started with an energy clearing, which I appreciated—I like a fresh, high-vibrational space. She then began describing what she was seeing in the spiritual realm. Some of what she said was so profound that I felt an undeniable sense of divine protection.
I just listened—no confirming or denying, just absorbing. Then, she said something that threw me all the way off:
"I see a doctor walking into your mother’s hospital room and picking up the clipboard at the foot of her bed."
Pump. The. Brakes.
A clipboard? Sis. Where? This ain’t 1987. I haven’t seen a clipboard in a hospital in years—everything is digital now! No iPad? No EMR system? Just a good ol’ wooden clipboard? I had to chuckle.
Right then, I knew that whatever “scene” she was tapping into had nothing to do with my mother. But I stayed on the call because, well, I was desperate. Did I feel peace afterward? A little. Did I feel like I had a real connection to my mom? Not exactly.
Would I do it again? Probably.
But here’s what I know now—I don’t need a medium. I have my own spiritual gifts.
Finding My Own Connection to My Mom
These days, I don’t wait for someone else to tell me if my mother is near—I listen for the signs myself.
I notice the subtle synchronicities. The songs that play when I need them most. And most importantly, I lean on my faith and my relationship with God for guidance.
So, would I say my session with the medium was a waste? No. It was a learning experience. And when you're desperate for comfort, you might try anything to feel your loved one’s presence for just one more moment.
3 Reflection Questions to Explore Your Own Spirituality
Have you ever tried unconventional methods to feel closer to a loved one who has passed? If not, would you?
What signs or messages have you received that made you feel like your loved one was still near?
How does your spiritual practice (or belief system) bring you comfort in grief?
3 Gemstones for Emotional Healing & Connection
If you’re looking for a tangible way to support your healing, here are three gemstones that can help:
💜 Amethyst – Known for its calming energy, it helps with emotional healing and spiritual connection.
💙 Lapis Lazuli – Helps strengthen intuition and open the Third Eye, making it easier to receive messages from beyond.
💚 Rose Quartz – The ultimate stone of love, offering emotional support and reminding you of the unbreakable bond between you and your loved one.
Clearing Your Energy & Staying Grounded Through Grief
Grief can feel heavy, and sometimes you need a reset. Here are a few simple ways to clear your energy and find some peace:
✨ Salt baths – A warm bath with sea salt and lavender can cleanse your energy and soothe your spirit.
✨ Nature walks – Not just any walk—go barefoot if you can! Grounding in the earth helps balance your energy.
✨ Breathwork & Meditation – Even just five minutes of deep breathing can help calm racing thoughts and ease tension.
We’re Here For You
If you’ve ever felt desperate to reconnect with your mother in any way possible, you’re not crazy, and you’re not alone. I’ve been there.
At The Heart of Miss Bee, Inc., we provide free resources, grief journals, and a community of women who truly understand. Because sometimes, the most healing thing isn’t searching for signs—it’s having a safe space to talk about your grief.
No judgment. No rules. Just real, raw healing.
About Kinyatta E. Gray
Kinyatta E. Gray is an author, entrepreneur, and founder of The Heart of Miss Bee, Inc., a nonprofit that provides compassionate support to women who have lost their mothers. Since her mother’s passing, Kinyatta has turned her grief into a driving force, building a legacy that speaks to resilience, purpose, and healing. She has published several books, launched a successful nonprofit, and created programs that help others navigate the path of loss.