The Other Side of Pretty Privilege: When It's Not Really a Privilege

In today's society, physical attractiveness is often seen as a ticket to a more comfortable life. This phenomenon, known as "pretty privilege," suggests that individuals who are perceived as more attractive are more likely to receive preferential treatment, opportunities, and advantages in various aspects of life. However, like any coin, pretty privilege has two sides. While it may seem like a blessing, there are instances when it can feel more like a curse.

The first downside of pretty privilege is the objectification and dehumanization that often comes with it. Attractive individuals, particularly women, are often reduced to their physical appearance, with their intellect, skills, and other qualities overlooked. This can lead to frustration and inadequacy, as they may feel their worth is tied solely to their looks.

I've personally experienced people thinking that I can't cook, or that I'm "stuck-up," or “stand-off ish” or worst yet, a cheater, based on my appearance. On top of that, I'm introverted, so being attractive + introverted has been quite the experience in life! ~ Kinyatta

Attractive individuals are almost always characterized as thinking they are better than others and, because of this, are often alienated and instantly dismissed.

Moreover, pretty privilege can lead to unwanted attention and harassment. The societal emphasis on physical attractiveness can make those who possess it targets for unwanted advances, stalking, and even assault. This can create a constant sense of fear and anxiety, making the so-called privilege more of a burden.

Another downside of pretty privilege is the pressure to maintain one's appearance. Society's beauty standards are not only unrealistic but also ever-changing. The fear of losing their privilege can lead individuals to go to extreme lengths to preserve their looks, often at the expense of their physical and mental health. This can include unhealthy dieting, excessive exercise, excessive use of filters and even cosmetic surgery, like BBLs.

Pretty privilege can also lead to isolation and mistrust. Attractive individuals may find it difficult to form genuine relationships, as they may question whether others are interested in them for their looks or for who they are as a person. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and a lack of genuine connection with others.

Lastly, pretty privilege can create unrealistic expectations and standards. Attractive individuals are often expected to be perfect in all aspects of their lives, from their careers to their relationships. This can lead to immense pressure and stress, as they strive to live up to these impossible standards.

Lastly, while pretty privilege may seem like a blessing, it can also bring about many challenges and difficulties. It's important to remember that beauty is subjective and fleeting and that true worth lies in one's character, abilities, and actions. As a society, we must move away from the superficial focus on physical attractiveness and towards a more holistic understanding of value and worth.

Kinyatta E. Gray is the founder of The Heart of Miss Bee, Inc., a non-profit organization that helps women understand grief and how to cope with grief through tools such as journaling. Gray is also the founder of the ward-winning FlightsInStilettos a luxury beach towel brand and business.